Goals-nay speak no ill

I had a goal for a while to practice not speaking ill of others. I felt like I need to revisit it because this last week was especially difficult to do that, and I think there is more that I need to learn. In Ephesians 4:29-32 it says: 

Only say things that are edifying to others.

Grieve not the Holy Spirit. To me this means even if I don't understand why I feel a certain way about saying something, if I feel like I shouldn't say it, then just don't say it. Let the reason of not offending the spirit be enough. Even if there isn't another reason that I can identify, like if I don't think the comment is that mean or if I think it is true or if I think it is necessary to say or anything like that. If I feel like I shouldn't say something then that is a good enough reason. And I need to listen to the spirit.

Don't say anything out of bitterness or anger or malice.

Be kind to one another and tenderhearted and forgiving, and think about how much Heavenly Father and Christ have forgiven me.

Then hymn number 233 says a few things as well:

Speak no ill. Speak kindly words. Don't tell every tale I've heard, because it is beneath a noble mind. Speak the best we can. Ask for a heart that tries to a efface other's faults. Think higher of man. Search for good in others earnestly. Be lenient to others' feelings. Don't make others' faults known.

Another interesting thing is in him number 235 and in doctrine and covenants 88 124 it relates speaking negatively of others to being lazy. Maybe that's because we are looking for the good in them and instead just easily finding the faults in them. And also we are trying  (because it does take effort sometimes) to stand up for them or to change the conversation or to be kind, when their faults are obvious.